Showing support to your loved ones struggling with addiction

woman showing support to loved one

Sometimes all a person needs to hear is that someone believes in them, loves them and supports them. This may seem irrelevant to some, but to others who do not have this person, it could mean the difference between life and death. How you choose to show your support to your loved one may differ from day to day, and that is OK. Unfortunately an addict will probably not realize how much love is behind how you choose to support them, but you will.

I show support by not enabling

Not enabling an addict can be easier said than done, especially when it is coming from someone outside of the situation. Family members and friends often find themselves enabling their loved one’s actions, without even realizing they are doing it. By choosing not to enable, you are taking the onus off of yourself and putting it right back to where it should be – on the addict. Though it is hard to watch, it is important to allow an addict to fully understand what he or she is doing to themselves and those around them. By allowing them to experience their own consequences you are not feeding into their addiction.

I show support by providing a safe space

By offering a safe space for your friend or loved one struggling with addiction, you are telling them that no matter what happens, you will be there by their side. The safe space could be a non-judgemental ear or a physical place that is drug and alcohol free. Regardless of what your safe space is that you are providing, knowing it is there during a time of need is very important.

I show my support by taking care of myself

Everyone has heard the saying that you need to take care of yourself to be able to take care of anyone else. There is a reason people say this so often – it is 100 per cent true. If you are not at your best and have the tools and skills required to get you through difficult situations, you will not be able to provide the support your loved one needs when they are ready.

I show support by finding my own support

Experiencing addiction second hand from a friend or loved one can be difficult to understand. You can be left with so many unanswered questions and feel alone, confused and unsure where to turn. Having somewhere to turn is just as important for you as it is your loved one who is struggling with the addiction. Find a support group online, seek out a Al-Anon (alcohol addiction) or Nar-Anon (drug addiction) meeting or speak with a therapist.

Remember, no matter how much support you offer, it is up to the person struggling with addiction to accept and want the support. It is not your job to force it upon them, but to only be there when they are ready. If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, contact us today to learn more about The Farm Rehab and how our in-patient addiction treatment program can help.