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Stop enabling an addict

If you have a friend or family member that struggles with addiction, it is likely that you have heard the phrase, “you to need to stop enabling the addict.” We always want the best for our loved ones, especially those struggling with addiction. We believe that we are doing the right thing when helping them. At the end of the day, we may not realize that our helping could be enabling the habits and behaviours of someone struggling with addiction. When we enable an addict, we are preventing them from seeing the total consequences to their actions and/or behaviours. 

Some signs that you are enabling an addict include: 

Not following through with consequences to boundaries

When we set boundaries for the addict in our lives and aren’t able to follow through with our words, it gives the message that they don’t need to change and that you will always be there, no matter what. For example, threatening to leave if they don’t get clean or seek help and not proceeding to follow through with this consequence when they don’t, is a form of enabling. 

Taking over responsibilities that they can and should be handling

Most addicts are not able to follow through with commitments or promises they make to others. This could include paying their portion of the bills, providing shelter for them or simply taking over household chores they would normally be required to do. Being their safety net allows the addict to continue life as is without any accountability. 

Loaning money

Many addicts struggle financially due to the amount of money being spent on their addictions. No matter what the person says they plan to use the money for, giving them more money fuels their addiction because it voids them of financial responsibility.                    

Rescuing them from legal issues

It’s hard to see a loved one struggling and it’s even harder to see them in jail. This does not mean that the best move is to jump to their rescue. For some, jail time could be the wake up call they need to seek out the addiction rehabilitation assistance you and everyone that cares for them knows they need. 

Putting the addicts needs before your own

It is natural to want to help your loved one. However, when it comes at the expense of your own health, wants and needs, your help may have gone too far because it is jeopardizing your well-being.

Acting out of fear of negative reactions

Enablers tend to shy away from conflict. They will therefore make choices in the addict’s best interest to avoid issues, but this will indirectly feed and encourage the addictive behaviours. 

Ignoring bad behaviours

Enablers will very often ignore bad behaviours and only focus on the positive qualities, such as the person being very loving, caring, and seeks out forgiveness. This encourages an addict to not address their maladaptive behaviours. 

Blaming other people and situations for the addict’s bad behaviour

Rather than putting accountability where it belongs, on the addict, the enabler will make excuses to blame anyone else for their bad behaviour and decisions.

Acknowledging and then breaking the habit of enabling an addict is not an easy feat. It is however, required for the addict to fully understand their addiction and the consequences to their actions. 

For help on how to stop enabling the addict in your life or to discuss how The Farm Rehab’s addiction treatment program can help your loved one, give us a call at 1-877-353-2777. 

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs - Methamphetamine

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Methamphetamine

What is Methamphetamine?

Methamphetamine, commonly known as meth, is a highly addictive, synthetic stimulant.

Developed in the early 1900s, methamphetamine gained popularity during World War II as a way to keep soldiers awake.  After the war, use became prevalent among college students, truck drivers, athletes, and homemakers who used the drug for its ability to create increased alertness, energy, and confidence; and suppress appetite.

Today, methamphetamine is one of the most commonly used illegal drugs in the world.

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Commonly Used Drugs - Cocaine

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Cocaine

What is Cocaine?

Cocaine is a highly addictive stimulant drug extracted from the leaves of the South American coca bush.

When processed, it is available in two forms, hydrochloride salt and freebase.  Hydrochloride salt is the powdered form of cocaine, it can be snorted, or dissolved in water and injected.  Freebase is the base form of cocaine, it’s sold as solid rock crystal and is “cooked” using heat and inhaled or “smoked”.

Crack cocaine is derivative of cocaine made by cooking hydrochloride salt with water and baking soda. It is also smoked, typically through a pipe. Continue reading “Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Cocaine”

Heroin Use

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Heroin

What is Heroin?

Heroin is an illegal, opioid drug synthesized from morphine, a natural substance derived from the seedpod of the opium poppy.

In its purest form, heroin is fine, white powder.  When the drug is “cut” with other substances its colour and consistency can change.  Street heroin can range from a white powder to a beige or brown grainy substance to a dark black tar.  The purity of heroin varies significantly from batch-to-batch and depending on which additives are used to cut the drug, this will determine its potency and risk. Continue reading “Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Heroin”

Commonly Used Club Drugs

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Club Drugs

Club drugs are a group of psychoactive drugs that take their name from their popularity at nightclubs, concerts, bars, and all-night dance parties. Club drugs are also commonly called designer drugs, as most are synthesized in a lab.

Generally used by teens and young adults, the majority of club drug use is limited to specific places, events, and activities where the drugs are thought to improve the overall experience or solicit a certain response.

The most common club drugs are Ecstasy, GHB, Ketamine, and Rohypnol.  All of these drugs act on the body’s central nervous system to produce a sense of euphoria, reduced inhibitions, heighten emotional and sensory feelings, and hallucinogenic effects.  But not all club drugs are the same.

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Commonly Used Hallucinogens

Commonly Used Illegal Drugs – Hallucinogens

Hallucinogens, also known as psychedelics, are drugs that alter the user’s perception, thoughts and feelings leading to a significant distortion of their reality.  Hallucinogens can be found in some plants and mushrooms or be synthesized in a lab.  Although the specific mechanics of how hallucinogens work remains unclear, research suggests that their effect can be attributed to the disruption of communication between neurotransmitter systems in the brain and the spinal cord.

The history of hallucinogenic drug use goes back centuries.  Originally used by indigenous people worldwide for medical purposes and religious and supernatural rituals, the drug’s popularity exploded in the 1950s and 60s, when they were promoted for their therapeutic, mind and consciousness-expanding effects.  An opinion that was soon discredited after numerous “bad trips” were reported.

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How to Talk to Your Child About Drugs and Alcohol

Talking to children about drugs and alcohol addiction

Research shows that children who learn the facts about drugs and alcohol from their parents are significantly less likely to use them.

No child is immune from exposure to drugs and alcohol.  Teen drug and alcohol abuse is prevalent in every community across Canada, and addiction has become a national crisis.

Children who aren’t properly educated about the dangers of drugs and alcohol are more likely to experiment and have a greater risk of addiction. Continue reading “Talking to children about drugs and alcohol addiction”